This is an article long in the making and derived from an observation of my ex-boyfriend made one day, months ago. He had this amazing quality to sow nuggets of gold, whether its ideas, adventures, musings and everything else in between. These nuggets then seed themselves in my subconscious and eventually through time and events etc will grow and come to fruition in its many forms and this is one such nugget. So, Positivity…What is it?
Let it Go
Now imagine that history, worry, pain, hurt etc is a ball of wool. All knotted and factored and your heart and brain are in the centre of this. Imagine getting a pair of scissors and cutting yourself free from all that. Letting the past just be, it happened yes and it’s something to take notes from but it’s not something that defines you. The one amazing ability all people have is to change… I won’t lie, it will feel scary as hell but embrace the uncertainty and the unfamiliar and see it as a challenge to grow and develop all that you truly want. You have already spent your life doubting, now try letting the daemons lie and the hope and desire to be better trickle in and take over.
Brainstorming Dreams & Reality
Get a piece of paper, or your computer, or anything that you can jot down ideas… Pencil at the ready start writing all things you want to do in life, in work, with your loved ones, holidays to go on, adventures to try out, visits to see, courses to take, everything and anything you can think of, don’t worry about anything. It doesn’t matter if they appear unrealistic, crazy or whether they would be out of your price league, the aim of the game is to indulge in your dreams. If you have a partner, work on the list together, what to do together, what you want to strive for yourself and what you will support each over and try out.
The point to begin with is to invoke your desires and allowing yourself to hope and dream, this is in itself is a powerful positivity booster. Once you have exhausted the list for now – pick something that you know is achievable and something that may take time and work together or by yourself on how to accomplish this. One step at a time will slowly and surely bring about change and a positive outlook starts to form. PS: When you tick something off, add a new idea… the list is ever growing…just like positivity.
Focus on Now
So focus on what you can control and that is you, how you react, how you speak or approach something. Being present can allow you to change your preprogrammed natural response to one that is geared to a more positive outlook. Being in the moment helps you develop better relationships with those around you, as they to feel your presence and feel happier which in turn makes you happier. Put down your phone when you are with people, pause the TV to talk, sit and be still for a while and focus on being in the now with yourself and others as a priority.
See the Happy
Compliments and gratitude is another great way to spread the positive vibe, appreciate people in your life, support them and allow the happiness you have for them show. Laughter, happiness, smiling, good vibes, positivity is all contagious and spreads easily from person to person, so let it flow.
Never Give Up & Drink Up!
Yes you read correctly, changing your thought process to feel and think more positively takes time, don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t work the first time, or the second time, or even the fiftieth. Let go of your expectations on yourself and others. Allow yourself to be happily surprised and try each and every day to think and be more positive and not to give up because you will start to find your life becomes very slightly easier, happier and everything and everyone around you will be revelling in your positivity without even realising it. Of course, I have to mention that 80Noir Ultra won't solve all your problems, but it will help improve your mood, boost your levels of happiness and get your onto a better mental wellbeing path way to aid the positivity journey. So drink or eat 80Noir Ultra here in the right doses (already set for you) to help you along the path.
The power to be positive is something we covert dearly and something some people are better at than others. It can feel like an un-achievable expectation. It isn’t, like everything in life, positivity is something that takes time, it takes repetitive, sometimes boring practice and more often than not it won’t work the way you expect or hope but the more you keep going, the happier you will become, the stresses will drop off you, opportunities will find you and life will become a lot more interesting and happier and you, well you will be exactly where you dream to be. Isn’t that something everyone should aim for?
Words by Carole Armitage: Chocolatier, Wellness & Food Writer